There's an interesting correlation between therapy and parenting: the point is to reduce the other person's need for you. Sounds weird, but if think about it...If my kid is still living at home when they're 40, I've probably done something wrong along the way. Yet I hear a lot of parents complain their children don't want to be around them. Well, maybe we should reframe children trying to leave. Maybe they're trying to test out all the good stuff we gave them. If I try too hard to keep my kids near by when it's their time to leave, it's like teaching my kids to drive, and then not letting them get their drivers license. It just doesn't make sense.
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