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There is only a part of me that would want my daughter to be ugly. That is the part that wants to protect her from all the men in the world. I want to make sure she is kept from becoming one of those girls who uses her looks instead of her brains to get things. Pretty girls get all the attention in high school and college, but eventually looks fade. Then I'm left with this vapid offspring with some sense of entitlement that is totally undeserved. At that point, I will have failed.
On the other hand, if she's ugly, she's going to have to work extra hard to get what she deserves. It's like naming a boy Sue. It will force her to be hard working and she will be proud of her accomplishments because they will be hers. And when the looks of the pretty girls fades to match hers, she'll be far above the rest of the women because her strength will come from her abilities instead of her looks. Plus I won't have to worry about her dating. Ever.
Yet, the pain and heartache she'll experience if she's a real ugg-o is pretty brutal. Why would I wish so much pain on my child? Kids are mean, why would I want it to be worse?
Maybe what I really want is a child that is confident for a good reason, and not just because of their looks. I know too many women who are good looking and they know they're good looking and they expect to be treated differently. If I can have a beautiful child without them becoming stuck up and self-involved, that would be my preference, but that seems to be the exception rather than the rule.
